A surrogate mother? Really??

How can you possibly carry a child and the give it away? I mean really? You grow it, inside you, feel it move, go through 9 months of your life. Then deliver and deal with all the pain that entails. The 6 weeks of recovering. All for what? To give the child away? After having your own, how could you possibly give the child away, after all that??

This is typically a response I get from people who don't understand the true emotions that come with a surrogacy arrangement. Is it easy, no? Is it for every women? Well of course not. It takes a special kind of women to care enough not to care. Let me explain.....

For a surrogate, a true selfless women, and one that can handle being a surrogate. It is the greatest feeling, the greatest gift, the most joyous moment, to be able to look into the eyes of the new born and hand him or her over to it's parents and with the wave of emotion crashing in on her heart, like a surfers dream, and in that moment feel complete. Not one heart string is pulled. Because you did not loose a part of your self in that moment. You did not just spend 9 months with nothing to show. You did not just "give a child away." You just fulfilled a dream. A hope, a dream. One that came after many years of stress, trying and all to fail horribly. A dream that many never thought to be a reality. You just gave a life time of happiness, sadness, sorrow, pain, laughter, fear and hope. You gave a life, a life.

So when asked, "Is it hard to give up the baby?" No, it is not hard. First and fore most, it is not my child to begin with. It is and always will be theirs. Period! But secondly, do you feel bad? Heck no. YOU FEEL AMAZING!! YOU just gave the gift of life. You just gave a life time of firsts. Nothing can change the amount of pride and happiness that you feel at the moment.

And what is even better, is when you have the most wonderful and deserving Intended Parents. That is what make a wonderful journey the best journey, ever. Arnt all journeys great? Well unfortunately NO. I have in my years of being a part of this wonderful industry, have witnessed a few not so great ones. But even thought there are bumps along the way. It really is what you take away from it. As a surrogate you know that with out you they would not have had this child. And that, my friend, is something to be proud of. Even if you do not walk away from the journey with a wonderful experience or an amazing relationship. There is ALWAYS always a lesson to be learned. In every situation. Every day you should learn something!

I am proud to be a surrogate mother. With in the blog I plan on posting regularly about my journey. So come back and read what I have to say, you never know we could end up inspiring some one some where to become something great!!